10 "SECRET" TIPS TO TEACH STUBBORN CHILDREN TO BECOME OBEDIENT AND WELL-BEHAVED

10 "SECRET" TIPS TO TEACH STUBBORN CHILDREN TO BECOME OBEDIENT AND WELL-BEHAVED

With just understanding and appropriate educational methods, parents can completely help their children promote the strengths in their personality and reduce their stubbornness.
When children don't obey, they are often judged by parents as being stubborn. However, that's not always the case! Sometimes it's simply because the child has strong opinions and character. Their viewpoints and thoughts are different from their parents'. Therefore, parents need to understand, grasp their child's psychology, and have suitable educational approaches.
Here are 10 small but powerful tips to help parents teach stubborn children to become obedient!

1,Listen to the child's thoughts
Communication is a two-way street. If you listen to your child, they will also listen to you. And vice versa.
A child's disobedience might stem from having their own thoughts and opinions. Especially if the child has a strong personality, they may want to fight for their viewpoint until the end. When parents don't listen and insist on forcing them to follow their own will, the child can become defiant and oppositional. Therefore, parents should genuinely listen to their child's opinions and concerns and have open conversations to help the child become more obedient.

2,Respect the child
After listening to the child's thoughts, parents need to respect them. Some methods parents should apply to show they are open and listen to their child's perspectives and thoughts:

Cooperate with your child rather than demanding they strictly follow your orders.

Establish consistent rules for all children and do not arbitrarily break these rules for any child.

Let the child do what is within their ability. This shows the child that you trust them.

Always be consistent in your words; do not make empty promises or threaten the child.

Set an example for your child.

3,Prevent the child's tantrums
Parents can completely "redirect" a child's tantrums as soon as they notice signs that the child is about to get angry or stubborn. For example, if the child is about to cry when being forced to turn off the TV to take a bath, the mother can make the bathroom space fun and visually appealing. This way, the child will be interested in taking a bath, instead of the mother suddenly turning off the TV and demanding the child to bathe.
Furthermore, parents can plan around the child's emotions. For example, take the child to see the doctor in the morning when they are usually happy, excited, and full of energy. Fun activities, games, or delicious snacks can be saved for the afternoon when the child is more irritable and easily upset.

4,Give children choices, don't force them
When parents strictly force a child to do something, they will feel wronged and find it unreasonable. This leads to a mood of opposition and acting out. To avoid this negative emotion, parents need to connect with their child. Parents should give the child the right to choose so they don't feel forced to do something.
However, parents should not give too many choices as this can confuse the child or lead to them becoming spoiled, thinking they can always have their way. Parents should offer a few options, and the child can only choose one among them.

5,Calmness helps parents teach stubborn children peacefully
When a child disobeys and acts out, surely any parent would feel very frustrated and angry. However, you shouldn't let your anger "burn everything down," igniting a fiercer flame of opposition from your child.
Parents should try not to raise their voices and use the most positive words possible. Parents need to stay very calm to clearly explain to the child why they must follow the adult's instructions.
Another quite effective tip in teaching stubborn children is to focus on what the child should do, instead of what they refuse to do. For example, if the child has toys scattered all over the floor, instead of saying "you are not allowed to make a mess there," the mother could replace it with: "If you put the toys neatly in the basket, our house will look cleaner and nicer. Your toys also won't get stepped on and broken..." This makes it easier for the child to accept.

6,Explain the rules set by parents
Sometimes children oppose their parents because they don't understand the parents' feelings. Instead of scolding or forbidding, you should teach the child understanding. Parents should tell their child the reason why they are doing something. Explain what the consequences will be if the child disobeys. Explaining like this will help the child understand that their actions directly affect others. From there, the child will learn to think about the consequences of their actions before doing them.

7,Apply "time-out" when teaching children
When parents have talked, listened to opinions, and given the child choices... but the child remains stubborn, then try applying a time-out for them. Give the child a quiet space for a specific period. This will help both you and the child calm down to see the issue more thoroughly.

8,Use punishment reasonably
Raising children requires rules and discipline. The child needs to understand they will be punished if they break these rules. Therefore, parents need to have disciplinary measures suitable for the child's behavior.
Parents need to punish the child right when they make a mistake. Parents should explain why they are punishing the child and what they expect from the punishment. This will help the child remember and not repeat the mistake. However, the punishment should not be too severe or harsh. Because if parents go too far, the child will develop more psychological resistance and rebellion.
In addition to punishment, parents should still encourage the child when they obey. When rewarding them, let the child know this is one way you show understanding and respect for them. It will give the child trust in the parents' disciplinary needs.

9,Create a joyful atmosphere
Children learn through observation and experience. If a child sees their parents arguing frequently, they will imitate and gradually become oppositional and stubborn. Therefore, parents should pay attention to creating a happy, harmonious atmosphere at home.

10,Parents also need to self-reflect
When you are at fault, don't hesitate to admit it and apologize to the child. And parents shouldn't forget to explain why they acted that way. Parents should help their child understand that no one is completely right. The important thing is to know how to admit mistakes and correct them. When children see their parents self-criticizing their own behavior, they will also remember and avoid making the same mistakes their parents made. This way, the child will become more obedient, well-behaved, and less oppositional.

Source: -St-

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